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Specialist help with drugs, alcohol and the things underneath them.

I'm Paul Burrows, an addiction counsellor with lived experience of trauma and recovery. We work at a pace that suits you, and nothing has to be settled in the first session.

MSc Psychology · FDAC specialist · Online sessions available UK-wide

My approach

Less telling you what to do. More working out what's going on.

  • 01We start with what's happening now, not with a list of your failures.
  • 02Change is treated as something you decide, at a pace you choose.
  • 03I bring tools from several evidence-based approaches and use what helps you.
  • 04Sessions are online, so recovery can happen from your own home.
"Part of you wants to change, and part of you doesn't. Both are telling you something useful." Working with ambivalence, one of my core ideas

You don't have to work this out on your own.

Online sessions are available across the UK. Reaching out is the first step, and it's a good one.

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Internal Family Systems (IFS)

IFS is an approach to psychotherapy that identifies and addresses multiple sub-personalities or families within each person’s mental system. These sub-personalities consist of wounded parts and painful emotions such as anger and shame, and parts that try to control and protect the person from the pain of the wounded parts. The sub-personalities are often in conflict with each other and with one’s core Self, a concept that describes the confident, compassionate, whole person that is at the core of every individual. IFS focuses on healing the wounded parts and restoring mental balance and harmony by changing the dynamics that create discord among the sub-personalities and the Self.

IFS was developed by psychologist Richard Schwartz. In his work as a family therapist, Schwartz began to observe patterns in how people described their inner lives: “What I heard repeatedly were descriptions of what they often called their "parts"—the conflicted subpersonalities that resided within them,” Schwartz says. He began to conceive of the mind as a family, and the parts as family members interacting with one another. Exploring how these components functioned with one another was the foundation for IFS and the idea of the core Self.

Subpersonalities

The mind is made up of distinct subpersonalities, each with its own qualities and perspective. These parts are like members of an "internal family".

Family systems

The model applies family systems concepts to the mind, suggesting that the subpersonalities interact and change in similar ways to how family members do.

Self-compassion

IFS focuses on self-compassion, which has been shown to help with the connection between childhood trauma and PTSD symptoms.