Coping with a breakup or divorce

  • Recognise that it’s OK to have different feelings. It’s normal to feel sad, angry, exhausted, frustrated, and confused. You may also feel anxious about the future. Accept that reactions like these will lessen over time. Even if the relationship was unhealthy, venturing into the unknown is frightening.
  • Give yourself a break. Give yourself permission to feel and to function at a less than optimal level for a period of time. You may not be able to be quite as productive on the job or care for others in exactly the way you’re accustomed to for a little while. No one is superman or superwoman; take time to heal, regroup, and re-energise.
  • Don’t go through this alone. Sharing your feelings with friends and family can help you get through this period. Consider joining a support group where you can talk to others in similar situations. Isolating yourself can raise your stress levels, reduce your concentration, and get in the way of your work, other relationships, and overall health. Don’t be afraid to get outside help if you need it.

Source: Mental Health America

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Grieving and moving on after
a relationship ends

A breakup or divorce is one of the most stressful and emotional experiences in life, along with finding and setting up home. Which, whatever the reason for the split — and whether you wanted it or not — the breakup of a relationship can obliterate the world you know. It then triggers all the painful and unsettling emotions we possess. As well as grieving the loss of your relationship, you may feel confused, isolated, and fearful about the future.

Fortunately you will discover plenty of things you can do to cope with the pain, get through this difficult time, and move on with a renewed sense of hope and optimism.