Questions to ask yourself when choosing a therapist

What’s most important in a therapist or counsellor is whether they provide you with a sense of connection, a safe environment and are supportive. Ask yourself the following questions:

  • Does it seem like the therapist truly cares about you and your problems?
  • Do you feel as if the therapist understands you?
  • Does the therapist accept you for who you are?
  • Would you feel comfortable revealing personal information to this individual?
  • Do you feel as if you can be honest and open with this therapist? That you don’t have to hide or pretend you’re someone that you’re not?
  • Is the therapist a good listener? Does he or she listen without interrupting, criticising, or judging? Do they pick up on your feelings and what you’re really saying? Do they make you feel heard?

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The first therapy sessions

Your first session or two of therapy is a time for mutual connection, a time for the therapist to learn about you and your issues. The therapist may also ask for a mental and physical health history.

It’s also a good idea to talk to the therapist about what you are expecting to achieve in therapy. Together, you can set the benchmarks which you will use to measure your progress.

This is also an important time for you to be assessing your connection with your therapist. You need to feel that your therapist understands your concern and reason about your situation, and is invested in your recovery. You must feel comfortable asking questions and sharing sensitive information. Remember, your feelings as well as your thoughts are important, so if you are feeling uncomfortable, don’t hesitate to question or perhaps consider another therapist.

Questions to consider when choosing a therapist