when to stop

When, or if, to stop therapy or counselling

When to stop therapy depends on you and your individual situation. Ideally, you will stop therapy when you and your therapist have decided that you have achieved what you began therapy to resolve. However, you may feel at some point that you have what you need from therapy, even if your therapist feels differently.

Leaving therapy will be difficult. Remember that the therapeutic relationship has developed into an immensely strong bond, and ending this relationship is a loss – even if treatment has been successful. Talk about this with your therapist. These feelings are normal. It's not uncommon for people to go back briefly to a therapist from time to time as needs arise.

As long as you continue to progress in therapy, it's an option

Some people continue to go to therapy on a continuing basis. That’s okay, especially if you don’t have other people to turn to for similar support in your life. Ideally, your therapist will be able to help you develop outside sources for support, but that’s not always possible. If therapy meets an important need in your life and expense is not an issue, continuing indefinitely is then a wise choice.

Signs that you may need to change therapists

  • You don’t feel comfortable talking about something.
  • Your therapist is dismissive of your problems or concerns.
  • Your therapist seems to have a personal agenda.
  • Your therapist does more talking than listening.
  • Your therapist tells you what to do and how to live your life.